Emotions as Messengers: What Might This Emotion Be Telling Me?

Every emotion carries information, a signal from your body about what matters, what feels safe or unsafe, and what might need care or attention.

When an emotion shows up, especially a big or uncomfortable one, it can help to pause and reflect once it has passed or settled enough for your thinking brain to join the conversation.  That’s when you can begin exploring the message underneath the emotion.

And don’t forget to notice the pleasant emotions, too. Those moments of calm, joy, or connection remind you what helps your body feel safe and supported - the people, places, and experiences that bring balance and ease.

Sometimes it’s hard to figure out what a feeling is trying to say on your own, and that’s okay. You can ask for help from someone you trust to explore it together.

You might wonder:

• “What might this feeling be trying to tell me?”
• “If this emotion could talk, what would it say?" 

Here are some examples to inspire your curiosity as you begin to notice what your emotions might be telling you.

Possible Messages from My Emotions

• “Something feels unfair or out of my control.”
• “I don’t feel safe enough right now.”
• “This feels like too much for me to hold.”
• “I’m not being seen, heard, or understood.”
• “I care deeply about this - it matters to me.”
• “I’m worried something bad could happen.”
• “I feel left out or disconnected.”
• “This feels exciting and alive in me.”
• “I’m proud - this shows what I value.”
• “I need more time, space, or care.”
• “I feel overwhelmed and need help to settle.”
• “Something important has been lost or changed.”
• “I feel safe, open, and ready to connect.”
• “This feels unjust - I want to stand up for what’s right.”
• “This is joy - the kind that reminds me I’m human.”
  
  

Pausing to consider what an emotion might be telling you builds discernment, the space to understand what’s needed before jumping into action.  This step turns emotional reactions into emotional wisdom.

From there, you can more clearly recognize what helps - the movement, rest, support, or connection your body and heart might need to come back into balance.

Author, Jen Rapanos, LMSW, RCYT

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